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Working together as a husband-wife team, we combine psychology, neuroscience, and faith to help couples experience deep love and extraordinary intimacy.
Interactive Assessments
Understand Why You Want What You Want
These research-backed assessments help you and your partner uncover the deeper patterns behind your desires, communication styles, and connection needs. Complete an assessment and receive personalized insights directly to your inbox.
Together - Who am I ?
A 50-question scored survey measuring five dimensions of personal identity. Each partner completes this independently. Your results produce an individual EQ Profile Report that becomes part of your shared journey through the book.
Emotional Intelligence Inventory for Couples - EQ Assessment
A 40-question assessment measuring emotional intelligence across four Goleman domains. Each partner completes independently. When both are done, a Couple EQ Compatibility Report is generated showing where you are aligned and where growth is available.
Attachment Style Quiz - Assessment
15 scenario-based questions identifying your primary and secondary attachment style. Each partner completes independently. When both are done, a Couple Attachment Dynamic Report is generated showing how your styles interact and what that means for your relationship.
Physical Health & Relationship Readiness Assessment
40 questions across six domains measuring how your current physical health habits affect your emotional availability, relational resilience, and capacity for genuine intimacy. Each partner completes independently. The system then generates an Individual Health Profile and a Couple Health Compatibility Report.
Personal Values Alignment Assessment
Rate each of 30 core values from 1 to 5 stars. Each partner completes independently. The assessment then generates a Values Heat Map showing where your priorities align, where they diverge, and what that means for your relationship.
How Well Do You Know Your Partner?
Based on Dr. John Gottman’s Love Map concept. Both partners answer 100 questions about themselves, then each guesses how the other answered. The assessment scores mutual knowledge and generates a full Love Map Depth Report — how well each of you knows the other.
Relationship Strengths Inventory
Inspired by PREPARE/ENRICH, this inventory assesses your relationship across twelve core domains. Each partner completes the inventory independently, then your responses are compared to generate a Couple Strengths Profile showing where you are thriving, where you are growing, and where meaningful conversations are waiting.
Communication Style Assessment
A 20-question assessment across five dimensions rooted in Gottman Method research. Each partner completes independently. Your results produce a Communication Style Profile. When both partners have completed, a Compatibility Report generates automatically — showing where your patterns align, where they diverge, and what each of you needs.
Four Horsemen Tracker
Each week, both partners independently log how often each of Gottman's Four Horsemen appeared in your interactions. The tracker builds a combined weekly report showing each partner's levels side by side, where your patterns align, and which antidotes to practise this week.
Conflict Style Assessment
A 20-question assessment across five dimensions, based on the Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode model. Each partner completes independently. Results produce individual style profiles and a Conflict Dynamics Report showing how your two approaches interact.
Couple Identity Profile
A 20-question assessment across five dimensions of shared identity. Each partner completes independently. Your results produce an individual Identity Profile. When both partners complete, a Couple DNA Report generates — mapping where your identities as a couple are strong, where they are still forming, and what each of you needs to feel fully at home in the relationship.
Couple Mission Statement Generator
A guided five-step workshop that walks each partner through individual reflection, then brings your answers together to find shared themes, draft your statement, and produce a beautifully formatted document suitable for framing. Each partner completes Steps 1–2 independently. Steps 3–5 are done together.
Vision Alignment Assessment
Each partner independently answers two questions across ten life domains — family, career, finances, home, adventure, service, intimacy, health, growth, and legacy. Your answers are compared to generate an Alignment Score and a domain-by-domain report showing where your visions converge, where they differ, and exactly what to discuss.
Love Language Profile for Couples
This assessment goes beyond Chapman’s original quiz to map your love languages across four dimensions of intimacy — emotional, physical, intellectual, and experiential. Each partner completes independently. Your results generate a Love Language Matrix showing how each of you prefers to give and receive love in each intimacy domain.
Intimacy Needs Assessment
A 20-question assessment covering physical affection preferences, desire patterns, comfort and safety needs, emotional connection, and intimacy goals. Each partner completes privately. You receive your own individual report first. Sharing with your partner is entirely optional.
Spiritual Intimacy Profile
A 20-question assessment across five dimensions of spiritual connection — shared meaning, legacy clarity, gratitude practice, forgiveness completion, and transcendence. Each partner completes independently. The results generate a Spiritual Connection Report mapping where your spiritual life as a couple is thriving and where the most growth is available.
Together Progress Assessment
60 questions across all ten domains of your relationship growth. Complete individually, then compare results together. Bring your scores from earlier chapter assessments to see your progress.
Quarterly Check-In Scheduler
A structured two-hour review of all Four Intimacies designed to be completed together each quarter. Set your annual schedule, work through 20 guided questions with built-in rating scales, and receive a printable couple summary.
Coach Connect Portal
Roy and Amy Clark work with couples and individuals to experience deep love and extraordinary intimacy. Combining psychology, neuroscience, and faith, they help clients move from average to extraordinary in every aspect of life.
Featured Tool
The Four Intimacies Interactive App
A guided interactive experience that takes you through all four dimensions of intimacy — Verbal, Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual — with expert insights and weekly exercises. No download needed — it runs right here in your browser.
Integrated assessment across all four intimacy dimensions
Expert insights from Nagoski, Perel, Schnarch, Gottman & more
Weekly exercises: Morning Ritual, Brakes Audit, Guided Touch
Launch the AppDownloadable Resources
Guides, Worksheets & Workbooks
Practical tools you can use between sessions or on your own. Each resource is designed to deepen your understanding and strengthen your connection.
Mission & Vision Workbook
workbookA comprehensive couples workbook to clarify your shared dreams, core values, and character strengths. Includes guided exercises for hopes and dreams, values identification, and action planning.
Download FreeCommunication Conversation Starters
worksheet50 thoughtful conversation prompts designed to deepen your verbal and emotional intimacy. Perfect for date nights, road trips, or quiet evenings at home.
Download FreeWeekly Intimacy Checklist
checklistA practical weekly checklist covering all four intimacies. Track your progress and ensure you're nurturing every dimension of your connection.
Download FreeConflict Resolution Roadmap
guideA step-by-step guide for navigating disagreements with grace. Based on Gottman's research and the Four Intimacies framework, this roadmap turns conflict into connection.
Download Free
Featured Tool
The Four Intimacies Interactive App
A guided interactive experience that takes you through all four dimensions of intimacy — Verbal, Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual — with expert insights and weekly exercises. No download needed — it runs right here in your browser.
Integrated assessment across all four intimacy dimensions
Expert insights from Nagoski, Perel, Schnarch, Gottman & more
Weekly exercises: Morning Ritual, Brakes Audit, Guided Touch
Downloadable Resources
Guides, Worksheets & Workbooks
Practical tools you can use between sessions or on your own. Each resource is designed to deepen your understanding and strengthen your connection.
Mission & Vision Workbook
workbookA comprehensive couples workbook to clarify your shared dreams, core values, and character strengths. Includes guided exercises for hopes and dreams, values identification, and action planning.
Download FreeCommunication Conversation Starters
worksheet50 thoughtful conversation prompts designed to deepen your verbal and emotional intimacy. Perfect for date nights, road trips, or quiet evenings at home.
Download FreeWeekly Intimacy Checklist
checklistA practical weekly checklist covering all four intimacies. Track your progress and ensure you're nurturing every dimension of your connection.
Download FreeConflict Resolution Roadmap
guideA step-by-step guide for navigating disagreements with grace. Based on Gottman's research and the Four Intimacies framework, this roadmap turns conflict into connection.
Download FreeVideo Library
Watch & Learn Together
Educational videos from Roy and Amy covering communication, intimacy, attachment, and more. Watch together as a couple for the best experience.
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Intimacy is at our core desire
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